Don’t you wish sometimes that things were easier? I mean, some things in life can get so complicated. I’ve been joking lately about considering celibacy, I am amused by the idea but pretty sure that it will definitely not work for me, some of my friends totally agree that it WILL NOT work for me.

Here’s the thing, finding a mate can get very complicated if we focus too much on it, I believe one of the best things is just to LIVE, enjoy life and flow along. Then, at the right time you may find yourself meeting a fantastic person that will rock your world and let you rock theirs. But many times this gets so hard. I have been in some great relationships that even though they ended provided me with a lot of knowledge on how to do things a little better and how to understand others’ behaviors and deal with them in a more loving way.

Even the people that love the “single life” have those moments when they wish they had someone to hold, someone to call and ask how their day went, someone to care for. It can be very easy to just find a fling, someone to play with and have a good time but that just won’t fill any lasting voids. I guess I consider myself more of a romantic who likes things done the right way, love can be playful but it is not meant to be played with.

Unbelievable that all that spill on the first paragraphs came from watching this little video of some bird doing his mating dance. Sometimes I wish life was as simple as ruffling your feathers and attacking… then I remember what I really want.

…time stops.

This quote is in this clip is from one of my favorite movies: Big Fish.

What’s your favorite movie quote?

Have you been in a bad romance?

One of those relationships when everything started great and then all went downhill. It happens. All. The. Time. The saddest part is that some times, even though happiness has vanished, we seem to be stuck to that person, we fail in our ability to look into the future. We think that if we walk away we will never, ever find anyone again. That is usually not true. There’s a popular saying in Puerto Rico that says:

“Es mejor estar solo que mal acompañado.”

Which translates to: “It’s better to be alone than in bad company”.

On the other hand, if this relationship is in marriage I will always encourage reconciliation over divorce. I believe things can be worked out in most occasions.

So, what has been your bad romance? How did you walk out? How did you fix it? Share it here, it may help others that are too afraid.

Lady GaGa – Bad Romance (Listen here)

That could explain the longing for having someone next to us for the rest of our lives.

If you have that someone, show them love, not only today, but everyday.

If you don’t, well, let’s hope you find that person soon.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Last night, someone kicked me in the heart with this…

But I guess in my mind, romance is more lust than anything else. Real love gets stronger when things get hard, not weaker. It clenches its fist and sets its jaw and holds on. Real love isn’t passive or just a feeling that sweeps over us for a time – it’s a decision too.

It’s a lot like a ship. You have to maintain it; sometimes is calm, even boring. sometimes there are storms. But the storms aren’t when you bail – if you did that you’d just be in the ocean in the middle of a storm! It’s better to put in the extra effort and work to make it thru…

Not every day is a storm, not every day is exciting… although, knowing me, I’d still be really excited about even the more boring days – cause you’re freaking sailing!

So good. I want to clench my fists and set my jaw to those statements.

All credit belongs to my friend Victoria.